Swiping right on destiny: The modern quest for love

In today’s tech-driven society, online dating is a popular way for those in search of love, companionship and meaningful relationships.

With numerous dating apps just a click away, it’s likely you’ve tried one and chatted with a potential romantic match.

Digital Cupid

With online dating now the norm for most people, DAILY TRIBUNE chatted with Juls and Maddie, two people who found love on Bumble, thanks to a digital Cupid’s arrow that brought their stories together.

Both had faced heartbreaks, but destiny had a surprise in store. Juls, 21, used a dating app in search of a meaningful connection. Maddie, 21, ventured into online dating out of pandemic-induced boredom.  Little did they know that a simple swipe and a few exchanged messages on Bumble would change their lives forever.

They clicked right away when they finally met in person after communicating online for weeks. Their first date led to many more, and the pair quickly realized they had something extraordinary.

Now, two years later, Juls and Maddie continue to cherish their relationship. As they affectionately put it, they owe their love story to the online realm, “I swiped right in Bumble.”

Bumble is an online dating site where users can ‘swipe left’ to reject a match or ‘swipe right’ to show interest. 

Maddie shared, “I never thought I’d meet the person I want to spend my lifetime with on an online dating app.”

Click to heartbreak

Not all online relationships lead to fairy-tale endings, however, as the DAILY TRIBUNE found out.

When they first linked on the well-known dating app Bumble, Kae, a 23-year-old law student, and Ashley, a 21-year-old Business Economics student, both created an intimate connection. Kae spent three months dating and making memories. But as time went on, things started to go wrong in the relationship.

Kae said, “Everything’s so surface level, and most of the time, it is your imagination running this whole relationship. You romanticize the person too much.”

She went on, “We were too intense for each other, and being in a relationship felt like we were going to ruin each other.”

After her story took an uncanny encounter, they made the decision to split up.

Meanwhile, Ashley, an Iskolar ng bayan, said, “Sa una lang usually consistent mga tao (People are consistent in the beginning.)You initially date because you like the characteristics posted by the person.”

She then added, “In online dating, breaking up is easy. People come and go.”

Mixed bag of online romance

Online dating offers a world of possibilities, from lasting love to heartbreak. While Juls and Maddie found their happiness online, Kae and Ashley’s story reminds us that even promising beginnings can lead to painful endings. 

As Kae wisely said, “Wear your heart on your sleeve because it is not worth the heartbreak.” Be mindful of red flags, trust your instincts, and take the time to get to know your potential partner.

Ashley agreed, saying, “Don’t rush. Dating is not a race.” Maddie ended, “You don’t find love, love finds you. You cannot rush or force love. If it’s meant for you, things will fall into place naturally.”

Whether you’re a traditional type of person looking for love or the modern kind that chooses to look for love online, dating can be an emotional rollercoaster. So, be careful and have an open mind in the hopes of finding your happily ever after.