Once we have reached the age of maturity, having gone through various experiences in our lives — from sad, happy, traumatic, depressing to euphoric, victorious, stressful, problematic or life-defining — we come to the realization that silence holds a profound significance that often surpasses the need to prove a point, whether to a respected ally or an adversary. In a world that often values loudness, aggression and constant validation, understanding the power of silence can be transformative. It allows for introspection, deep listening and the ability to truly comprehend the perspectives of others.

Silence possesses the ability to diffuse conflict and tensions, fostering an environment where genuine understanding and empathy can thrive. It allows for thoughtful contemplation before responding, allowing one to choose words wisely and with pure intentions. By embracing silence, we can transcend the desire to win an argument or assert dominance and, instead, seek genuine communication and the resolution of conflict.

Moreover, silence grants space for self-reflection and personal growth. It is the absence of noise that we can hear our inner voice, acknowledge our mixed emotions and discern our own truths. Silence allows us to detach ourselves from external influences and distractions, providing an opportunity to delve into our deep thoughts, dreams and aspirations.

In relationships, silence can be a powerful tool for healing and reconciliation.  It allows for the acknowledgement of hurts and the space for understanding to emerge. By being silent, we give ourselves and others the chance to process emotions, find solace and comfort, and rebuild broken bridges.

Ultimately, the realization that silence holds more importance than proving a point demonstrates emotional intelligence, wisdom and maturity. It signifies a shift in focus from ego-driven debates to fostering harmony, deep connections and personal growth. Embracing the power of silence can lead to a more peaceful, compassionate, harmonious, happy and fulfilling existence.

The author is one of 100 Most Influential Global Filipinas for her books and advocacy work. She was recognized as one of The Outstanding Women in the Nation’s Service (TOWNS). As a social historian, she has written 44 coffee table books in the last 24 years found in select libraries around the world.